How Do You Prepare for the Inevitable?

When you know that a parent is going to die - how do you prepare?

• What is the "right" thing to do: death-watch vigil or keep moving?
• Say everything and bare your soul, even when you've never talked that way to your parent before? Or keep living your 'real' relationship, warts and all
• Continuousl play out the final days in your head so you can live it like in the movies? Or just live it as it really happens?

Do you cry...laught...sing...pray...curse...love...lash out...make love...rage...write...retreat...dance...drink...sleep...sob...think..?

Do you blame everyone and everything...doctors... siblings... stress...your parent...food additives...yourself...fate...God?